Ahh, sage responsibility parenting pearls from the adult MLCer who runs and hides from his problems!! MLCers have no self awareness, truly.

Also, seems your h's big fear is raising a lazy hippie. And what was driving force of the hippie movement? They were anti-establishment. They rebelled and said I will not wear x haircut and do y bathing routine, etc. The irony!!

I can joke, but those are actually big, important issues to tackle: respecting one's individuality and allowing one to be who he wants to be. What happens when you force someone to be who you think he should be?

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced