Letting go, finally

[JGuy]

"We ski together, we hang out once every week or two, we share all our relationship struggles with each other"

This is an emotional affair, especially sharing your relationship troubles with each other.

Interesting. I would have thought that to be considered an EA, it requires some kind of romantic attraction to be there. There is no attraction between me and this friend. She happens to be female, but I have never felt any attraction to her, and I don't think I ever would because she is not my type. When talking about our relationship challenges, we value each other's perspective and we use it to learn about ourselves.

BTW, Originally I was never the kind of person who talked with any friends much at all about my relationship with my W. If I had a problem with my W, I would talk to my W about it. Only after I found out about my W's affairs did I suddenly have a very strong need for emotional support outside of the M. That's when I started talking to lots of my close friends and family about what was going on. This friend was one of those people.

Should I really be worried that this may be a threat to my M? It seems really unnecessary to lose this source of support based on a black-or-white definition of all females being off limits when it comes to sharing my story and seeking support.