Still moving in a new direction

[mleigh4]

Thank you Job, I like what you said and will definitely use that.

I did not respond last night, but the spew started up again this morning. I once again stood my ground about his mother. I got some real good mom bashing thrown back at me though. The fact that he can be so angry in text, but so nice to my face is........disturbing?

I got stabs such as, S needs to be told what to do as far as haircuts, changing into jammies at night, and taking baths instead of showers. Those things should not be his choice. Its no wonder he acts the way he does because I don't make him do anything. I am raising him to be a lazy hippie who thinks no one should do anything they don't want to. That I am raising him to avoid anything that upsets him. That because I don't make him take a shower, he will panic in junior high when he goes into the gym. I see no value at all in having structure and responsibilities. He attacked my family, which ok, I did his too. That I will have a lazy hippie with long hair who never moves out, sleeps in his clothes and plays video games.

Sigh...... It is all such rubberish, but kind of funny too, no? Sounds like a lot of projection to me?

Again, I took no stabs back, and boy could I make some, right? But no, I am not that person anymore. This is the new Michele. I finally suggested we get some professional help, to teach us to come together on our parenting. He replied, anything to keep me from raising him the way I am. I left it at, we both come from very unhealthy dysfunctional families, that I got help with my anger and emotional issue, and I hope he does too. He replied, this is about S future, not personal issues.

Lol -- um ok. His personal issues are way more affecting our son than my not forcing him to shower over bathe. Which, by the way, S only does at my house.

So, there we have it. Thank goodness I have my spew jacket, thanks to Cali. I will lay low, but am going to look up some family counselors. Lets see if he follows through on that!