I don't know that there is a rational for it. WS seem to not act rationally. Maybe he was uncomfortable with feeling like the bad guy so he wanted you to feel bad for him.
I think you are exactly right. Do not jump on breadcrumbs. As far as your questioning what shade of dark do you do... I am wrestling with the same question. I am going to go with what the book says where it talks about experimenting with techniques. Just make sure to experiment long enough to get a true response.
My thoughts and prayers are with you Hope!
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16