I feel the same way as you both do....when will we know it is time to give up? I agree some with Tim about winning and losing. My H even said to me "I think you don't want to get a D because you just don't want to lose". But, I think it is also about being a family, fighting for your marriage and wanting it to be a better M than it was before. To give it a fighting chance now that you know what the issues are and what you would do to try to "fix them".
I sincerely hope that your IC is right and our hearts will know when it is time to let go and move forward. I am on the same roller coaster of F this one moment and tearing up about a memory the next. I guess all we can do is our best. Keep detaching, making a life for ourselves, hoping our WAS wants to try to reconcile and, if not, at least we are the best "me" that we can be.
Good to know I am not the only one that cycles back and forth between hope and despair. I am hopeful someone on this board will have a successful reconciliation soon....very soon.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
