There are some positives here, Hope.

First, you applied the Sandi's rules. Nice job!

Second, I think you planted a seed with him. You showed him a different side of you. You've lost weight, you were calm, you laughed, you validated.

There's no way he didn't notice all of that ^^^.

This stuff takes time. You take tiny little steps to get there.

Yesterday was a tiny step for you. Stay the course.

This isn't over by a long shot.