I guess I am conflicted also that if I do try to maintain DB with a physical separation. We are going to have to talk, at least in text probably daily. And I will have to help her with her weeks with our D since I am the school taxi service Not sure if I sure go NC, or be loving from a distance. Positive, a thoughtful text once in a while or more the WS approach of I don't talk to her unless she talks to me. I feel if there is any hope for MR, it would be to keep being a better option with small, positive interactions, but nothing chasing or pursuing and see if the consequences and his flaws start to work on her.
I guess from reading Sandi's posts about a WW vs. a WAW (mine is a bit of both since this could be an exit affair), you have to be harder. Yet, you don't want to look like a source of pain while the AP is relecting back a picture of herself that feels perfect.
H:54 W:46 D:11 D:21 M:12 BD:1/15 In-house Separation 2/15 DB started 7/15, W sees consistency 9/15 Dropping the rope and having her leave 2/16, moves 5/16 Reconciliation 1/17 Obviously still struggling
Not sure if I sure go NC, or be loving from a distance. Positive, a thoughtful text once in a while or more the WS approach of I don't talk to her unless she talks to me. I feel if there is any hope for MR, it would be to keep being a better option with small, positive interactions, but nothing chasing or pursuing and see if the consequences and his flaws start to work on her.