Still NC - Trying to move forward

[TimR]

I get what you are saying Thornton. In my M I have owned the things that hurt us but W never has. One specific event where I had a surprise birthday for her, I had to 'misplace' her keys and she flipped out on me. Then to get her up to the surprise party I had to eventually tell her about it bc she literally left the house and started walking up the road. She screamed at me the entire way there. When we got there and friends told her of how much work I put into to it she apologized to them and said how silly she acted BUT she never apologized to me.

I think we both have issues with being the 'nice guy' too much, where our Ws can just dump their troubles. In moving forward we need to figure out how to move out of that role.