It's funny how that works, isn't it? we drop the rope and try to move on with our lives and that's when they want to work on things all of a sudden?
I think it's the same for WAWs and WWs: they see us making the effort and they're like "now he wants to work on the relationship! where was this (insert time)ago!"
You'll get way more traffic if you post in the newcomers section. Hopefully there's some people there that can help you answer the questions you have for yourself.
one thing that really helped me was answering 4 questions for myself:
1) what do you gain by staying in the M
2) what do you gain by leaving?
3) what do you risk by staying in the M?
4) what do you wish by leaving?
answer those questions for yourself honestly and I think that will clear up the picture for you pretty quickly...
