Yes, I'm just not with you on the whole - maturely exploring a friendship with OW (to whom you are attracted.) I think it's best to realise you are waaay to vulnerable to carry that one off and limit new friendships to guys - not attractive gals.
Thinking more about it last night, I am starting to agree with you and the others regarding this advice. In an ideal world such a thing may be possible, and I may or may not indeed be capable of it, but even if I am, there is still a question of whether or not the OW is capable of it.
I have another female friend who I have been very close to emotionally for the last 4 years... I have not mentioned her before because it was never an issue. We ski together, we hang out once every week or two, we share all our relationship struggles with each other, and that friendship has been awesome and there has never been any romantic attraction to each other. There have been moments where like any woman I admire her beauty at times, but we have never had any problem keeping things platonic. This makes me wonder if I can do the same with the OW with whom I have recently had this spiritual connection, but I have to admit it's more risky because of just how intense that attraction felt at that one point a couple weeks ago.
It's sad that it has to be this way, but for now I'm feeling like you folks are probably right and it would best to play it safe and keep some distance from the OW.
Me: 39 W: 36 M: 8 yrs T: 10 yrs S: 7 W started coming out with the truth: 9/26/15 W finished coming out with the truth: 11/12/15 W started sleeping in guest BR: 11/13/2015
