I would tell any H to not permit a child to start sleeping between him and his W. It builds a wall between H and W, and it develops into a terrible habit for the child. Even if the child slept on the other side of the W, it would not be a good situation for the MR. I feel that many women do it intentionally to keep the man from initiating sex. She has a built-in excuse of the child always being in the bed and she might wake up.
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Sadly, we made no efforts to talk about our problems before I found out about OM. We had no previous affairs in our relationship that I know of. I searched her phone and found the texts because I noticed that she was on her phone more than usual. I'm not proud of snooping, but I couldn't help myself. That same night I approached her about just wanting her to be happy. I'm sure I caught her off guard. I had no plan and was acting calmly, but impulsively, if that makes sense. She said that she didn't want our daughter to come from a broken home, but that she couldn't live like this anymore. She also said she wasn't sure if she could financially handle living in our house by herself. Than she left to go be with our daughter.
You need to decide how you will respond if she wants to continue living under the same roof, but not giving up her OM. Would this be a deal breaker for you?
I don't think she knows that I am aware of the OM. But I don't think it's a deal breaker for me. It's going to be a challenge, but I need to quit being the nice guy doormat.
