I dont think it was a game.

I think your XF is hurting. She just ended her R with OM. She is experiencing her own BD right now.

So much has changed for her recently, she's bound to be wishy-washy.

I'm sure she has fears, like you, that getting back in the R, might be a repeat of the past. It's scary stuff. There's so much emotion wrapped up in all of this.

Sotto's advice is spot on. Just pull back a little and let her come to you. And if and when she does, play it very cool.

Validate her and listen. But don't get drawn into 2 hour deep conversations. That's too much right now. It's too heavy.