Hello everyone! It has been a while since I've posted and been on the boards. Haven't caught up with all of the threads, but I'm getting there.
Ginger - very sorry about the bf situation, but better to come to this realization and decision now than much later on and bravo to you for standing up to what you deserve!
Bets - Hope the shingles are getting better. As I mentioned before, I'm not a fan of them at all having had them myself.
As for me, life has been fairly smooth until this weekend. My ex-wife was married on Sunday. This was to the guy she met through e-Harmony back in late August. I received a scathing "FU" text message from her at 12:36am on Sunday morning (drunk text perhaps), lambasting me because her two sisters and their husband, who were in town for her wedding, came over to my house to see me and my fiancé on Saturday and had lunch with us. She has had issues in the past with me staying in touch with them, telling me that I have my own family and this recent episode sent her over the edge. Never mind that it was her sisters who asked me if they could come over and visit. I had not seen one of the sisters in almost 3 years, so I was glad they wanted to come over. We spent about 3 hours visiting. They (the sisters) have told me straight away that they didn't divorce me it was their sister and they will always consider me a part of their family. One of them said that they wished at times that they had gotten custody of me in the divorce instead of their sister. What I find hypocritical about the ex's criticism about all of this is she stays in constant contact with my two oldest kids (from my first marriage) and considers herself a grandmother-to-be to my soon to arrive first grandchild.
Anyway, she has pledged that she is done ever communicating with me again - which I'm not sure how that is going to bother me, since that should mean I no longer have to read obscene middle of the night text messages! :-)
In other news, my lovely fiancé and I a few weeks ago set a July 10th, 2016 date for our wedding and this weekend promptly decided to postpone it. Not for relationship issues, primarily out of fiscal and timing issues. My fiancé is a consultant and the contract she is on expires in March and it looks like the company is not going to pick up the renewal, so she could be out of a job which is stressing her out money wise. Additionally, we were feeling constrained by the amount of planning we need to do and the timing required to get it done. So we said it's not worth it to be stressed out over something that we both are very much excited about and want to do right. We've decided that next year, 2017, is a much more reasonable target both fiscally and planning wise. Once we made that decision we both felt a sense of relief. We both already feel married and know that our relationship is solid. The ceremony is for legal issues and the focus is and always has been on having a great party to celebrate us - we want to do that the right way, without feeling rushed into it and without worry of expense.
