Still moving in a new direction

[mleigh4]

Thanks 2 times and Bttrfly. Your support really makes me feel good.

Just got TM from H. I was hoping it was something nice or happy. No, more about his mom. Mommy issues are no joke. More accusations of persuading S to not want Grammy day. More backlash about chores.

I replied like I said I would, that I am sorry her articles and case studies get into his head so much, that I am not impressed with her parenting results and am not interested in her parenting suggestions. That all of that is part of a dysfunctional life I am leaving behind me and that I have moved on. I added, HOWEVER, Grammy day is son's choice. If he wants to continue, that is fine and I told her such, as long as she stops parenting him. I told him I do not have the comfort and trust level he has with her. I said we have all had to adjust to big changes, and this is possibly a transition for S, but again,Grammy day is his choice.

I then said, we have 9 more years to co-parent so let's get started. I told him I read the article and liked some of the ideas. I let him know I drew up a list of all the duties it takes to run my home. I plan on sitting down with S and having him choose which he will help me with. After a couple weeks, he needs to do on his own. If not, he will have an additional duty to do before any electronics. I asked him to let me know his plan, that we can compromise and come up with a plan to keep it consistent in both houses.

On pins and needles.....not!! I wish he would just leave me alone, to be honest.....