Still learning AU Bob

[AU Bob]

Really
She sent them to me. I mean if you think its not a good idea, I wont do it.

[Vapo]

Send it if you wish, buth nothing elabotate, and no gift. Have no expectations...

[mvgfwd2]

For me I wouldn't send any texts except for child care or important required matters. What's the point? It seems more like pursuing to me.

[AU Bob]

Ok
Thats why i asked, i want to hear your opinions.
I never thought of buying her a gift.
I just dont want to come off as negative, thats all i was worried about, she texts me these things, i just thought i would be reciprocating, I was not thinking it was pursuing.
But if you guys think it would look like that mabe i should not do it?

[mvgfwd2]

You're not being negative, you're moving on. Others have said "you can't nICE her back".

[Vapo]

Aussie, mate,

It is not a BD disaster if you do wish her a happy birthday, you can, but do it without expectations, say happy birthday and that is it, anything more would be pursuing. I mean, you would wish your neighbor a happy birthday, would you not? But you would not expect the neighbor to french kiss you in return, would you?

So, treat her like a neighbor, text happy birthday and be done with it.

Again, if you feel you would like to wish her HB, do, but do not pursue, plead or beg. You will get the hang of it, it just takes a bit of practice.

Stay strong down under...

[Vapo]

You're not being negative, you're moving on. Others have said "you can't nICE her back".

And no, this is soooo WRONG, you are not moving on, you are moving FORWARD!!! You are not nearly ready to move on...

[mvgfwd2]

Vapo, I have to disagree. I don't go out of my way to wish a neighbor happy birthday. Definitely don't text a neighbor happy birthday. If I see them nearby I may do it, but I'm not going to knock on the door and say happy birthday.

Moving on, moving forward. Same difference.

[Sotto]

I don't think there's any harm in a HBD text - as long as you are generally detaching and can keep it light and breezy with no expectations. I wished my H HBD recently. He had emailed me about something the day before and I was able to pop in a one liner to say HBD in my reply on his birthday. I didn't receive a reply for him, but I haven't particularly worried about that either..

Hope this helps

[mvgfwd2]

How is a WW supposed to feel loss if one keeps in contact for even the smallest of things? Do what you feel works but I don't see it helping you reach your goal.