HD women, First are there HD women out there who suffered with LD wasband withholding sex? If so, let's brainstorm how we can make sure we never, ever, ever end up in that same sad place again.
I don't know if I would ever want to get married again but I do know I'm not giving up on my sexuality. I suspect I'm at least a serial monogomist, so the easy way out of several men probably won't work for me emotionally. But I sure need to figure out what I missed the first time around.
I think there were several factors in my marriage: 1. when he sobered up, he became pretty inhibited and judgemental about sex. So I need to ensure a new man can be a hottie dead cold sober? 2. he defined himself more by me, than independently... and was then threatened by my success. So I need someone who has a healthy identity, self-image so he feels manly enough to make me feel womanly? does that even make sense? 3. He always felt things had to be perfect before we could ML. I typically thought even the worst situation would be improved by sex... so I need to watch out for someone who has endless conditions?
what else? I've already lived through this, I want to figure out how not to repeat it!
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time, and annoys the pig.
