we're going to have now made it so you have to start a new thread too!
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
Lol, I think I may be the only one you got wrong. I maybe 'refined' for my rural setting but probably not what you think. Keep in mind I am also a wrestling coach and judo instructor, so I am a little more sporty, jeans and tshirt type guy.
I would be so in for the bbq too!
On a serious note, I get what your talking about missing W. All I could think of after dropping W off is "how did we go so wrong?" what did I do to hurt her so bad that she turned away from me? Is there anything I could ever do to bring her back? We should not be in this situation. But yet here we are...
I am sorry for your sitch Thornton. I can understand your doubts, fears, and anxieties. I also think about if my W is a happy person, she has often seemed pessimistic. If she will ever be happy. I guess sometimes if a person has been sad and hurt or abused for such a long period, happiness can scare or bore them.
Keep up working on yourself Thornton and so will I, maybe in the future we will both get to then work on our Ws.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
I don't know if I am Tall but 6'. Since BD. I spend too much time in the gym lifting as much as I can. So a little thicker than slender. Fast cars are good but give me big truck instead! Live to close to the country!
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Agreed Tim. I think about how H is sabatoging because he has this misheld belief that complacency is the worst thing that can happen to you. He sat there telling me that all the things we planned (family, kids, a home etc), he felt like he "should" want those things. And his reaction is anytime he "should" do something, his knee jerk reaction is to do the opposite. If he doesn't figure out that should doesn't mean bad, he's going to end up with nothing that he really wants (he really wants kids but you have to settle down to get there first!)
We're all flawed. As V would say, we all have our monkeys. i just wish H would let me help him wrangle his. :-/
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
