Sorry to hear about your children and their sadness, Red. The kids are the saddest part of all our sitches. It seems so unfair that our WASs can't pull their heads out of their butts. However, the fact that it destroys the kids is the worst of it. Before the separation I had thought about leaving a bit myself, and then thought no, I have kids (even if I am not the biological father) I don't have the pleasure of leaving when it gets a bit hard.

I guess that is the difference between being a committed spouse and a WS.

It is good to hear that you went out. I hope the guys hitting on you and flirting with you, helped your confidence and showed you that you are the type of woman a man wants.

Me 41
W 33
M 2013
Suspect A 11/15
Confirm A 1/16
She moved out 2/14/16
Stepson 13
Stepson 16