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Tyler,

That is so difficult. The kids just take the brunt of all of this, don't they?! It just crushes me to watch my boys be hurt by this and I know you must feel awful, too.

So, our boys see a counselor. He recommended a week on, week off. He said that seems to work the best (he said often times there is one night during that week that the other parent has a dinner with them to break it up - say a Thursday). But, that is impossible for my H because he travels. So, then he recommended 3,4,4,3. That way the kids don't have to constantly be shuffled too much back and forth. He said that is less "bouncing back and forth". They should also have clothes at both homes, etc. My kids only have to take their school backpacks back and forth.

I am not sure what to tell you about the OM. That would make my blood boil and I commend you for trying to discuss it without anger. Maybe you can get a consultation for an hour or two with a family therapist or counselor? That just seems like a minefield of problems. I am so sorry you have to deal with that. You really are strong to be taking the high road to figure out what is in the best interests of your sons!