yes, please do not go with what you think is fair. You are emotionally involved.

You already stated you wouldn't take half of the money she has stashed because you want her to take care of the kids. News flash, when she burns through it she will come after you for money either way.

let the lawyers do it.

I have seen so many stories here where the lbs thought if they went along with everything and didn't upset the spouse everything would be fine.

wrong

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15