Not sure where to stand

[Sparkls]

Although I'm not sure I buy into the being macho around this particular friend, I appreciate that.
This particular friend has been our friend for a very long time and is "on my side" so to speak (He's lucky to have me and thinks I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him etc). But yeah, I didn't have any intention of talking to him about it more after this.
I've been very guilty of reaching out to the sane people in his life to try and get them to apply some outside pressure to end the A. well really I phrased it very specifically to not ask them to side with me. I just asked them to be there for him to talk to him if he needed an ear, as he has several ears right now giving him such bad advice, I had hoped to have some good ears to balance it out. I know, probably not my best idea but it was all during the first like week or two and have now stopped.

And I'm not actually going to post on his fb. I tend to post here so that I don't post there XP

Personal flaw that has gotten a lot worse recently with the death of my mother and all of the ensuing family drama: I have a very hard time sticking to my decisions. I second guess myself so much more than I ever used to. It's weird because it's only in the social interactions part of my life. In medicine, in my career, in school, I'm confident and I stick to my guns but when it comes to my personal life, I feel like I'm standing in quicksand and any wrong move is going to cause me to sink.

First step: sticking to my guns about asking him to leave. This is my home, he disrespected that. I have zero control over just about everything right now but this is the environment I can control. It's my safe haven and I need for it to feel that way.