I do agree w/what bttrfly has posting about DBing and wanting marriages to work out, but ultimately, we have to work on getting to a place of level footing in order not to react to what they say or do when they are communicating w/us.
She is also correct that you don't have to anything about anything today. Take the time to breathe and know that no matter what transpires, you are going to be okay.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
