you may also want to consider working with a db coach. i found mine to be extremely helpful. and while we are DBing for US, I personally believe we also are DBing because we want our marriages to work. Else, well, why are we all here and not at a support group for people working on divorce not hoping for reconciliation.

but that's just my opinion.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver