I don't feel good about you living under the same roof and her not making any changes, but that's your business. IMHO, it could set a poor relationship role model for five boys. Eventually she will get bolder in her dating, and more disrespectful toward you. If you could see this in one weekend, how much worse will become once her security is set? She has a reason for wanting to see evidence of withdraw of the divorce. That frees her to have the best, without requiring her to make changes.
I did not say this to beat you up, Jim. It just really saddens me to see a man accept the type of unexclusive terms that you, apparently, are willing to do.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
