Welcome to the community. I have some questions, just to help give us a clearer picture. So, did your W discover the truth about the financial situation? What ultimately led to sleeping in separate bedrooms and the declining MR? Had either of you made any effort to talk about the relationship, before you discovered she'd been texting OM?

Did you accidentally discover the texts or were you looking for something particular on her phone? Has there ever been any type of affair from either of you?

What were your expectations when you told her you just wanted her to be happy? Surely there was more said. Did she seem angry when she said she wanted a divorce?

You want to save the M now. What changed your mind?

Be sure to read those links Cadet sent you. They have important information you need.

Hope you post often.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!