Now, the real work begins..Part II

[broke]

G8r and HopeRB - thanks for the support about dinner and the GALing. H just texted me about picking up the kids and I couldn't help responding that I just played 9 holes of golf and it was great to play on 2/28. Probably shouldn't have said anything, but it was a great time. I plan on continuing to GAL and improve myself, which is fabulous for me. I would also like it to help move towards reconciliation with H, but I'm skeptical at this point with so much time going by and how many mistakes I made at the beginning of this nightmare. Not ready to give up hope yet, but it's getting harder and harder to feel optimistic about my M.

JujuB,

To answer your questions about the affair:

- When he dropped the bomb on me in July, I was so shell shocked, I figured he had to be cheating. Our M was just fine, not perfect, but not bad either. So, I suspected something had to be going on. I snooped some and found a couple "weird" emails that only I would think were "off". In August and September, I confronted him about this particular co-worker and he denied it. Lied to my face at least 3 times. Unfortunately, in December, my two sons saw a text from the woman I confronted him about that said "I love you". However, he convinced the boys they saw something else. Unfortunately, they don't really believe him. He lied to me about it, too. But, this time I didn't believe him. I texted the OW to tell her H. I told both the OW and my H to end it but they refused. So, I waited a month and then told the OW's H. Unfortunately, it accelerated the D. My husband filed the following week, bought a house and told the kids the D was proceeding. At first, the OW and her H were trying to go to MC and reconcile. But, in the last two weeks, my H has gotten more secretive and more friendly (from the guilt I think), so I believe the A with her is back on. They both still work together and the OW's H said she would have to quit for him to reconcile with her. So, I think the A is still going strong. But, I refuse to ask him.