Hope
I'm chiming in that I have those same thoughts going through my head

I've been no contact for 3 months I've stopped pursuing and chasing and focused on my growth and learning. I know my worth I'm human with flaws but I'm kind generous and loyal
I'm standing for my marriage and I'm willing to work through things I'm not going to go back to the old I want a new improved marriage. It may not happen and I'm hoping one day I'll wake up and stop thinking about her and us and just be ok with it
Reading these threads make me feel less alone and part of a community that shares and I can see success may just be coming out I this wiser and smarter and accepting of of myself