Too Much Time Is Passing By

[Vanilla]

I am going to tell you about H2. I don't talk about him much here. H2 was a complete gentleman and rather old fashioned, our M just died and by mutual agreement we D.

It was a co-operative D, and without too much drama, a long M and an equitable agreed split of assets.

We went our separate ways wishing each other the very best.

I didn't want friendship, I just moved on with my life.

After 2 years H2 started to turn up wherever I was, he didn't speak to me and frankly I was not interested. He tried to buy the house opposite. H2 had decided he would like his M back.

I was not interested and said so for a number of reasons. After that I didn't see H2 for many years. Then I got a message from him through a friend that he had wished he had worked on his M with V. It was the biggest regret of his life.

It happens all the time. In many circumstances NC is the best strategy especially if there is an A or an MLC. It is the only strategy in an abuse sitch in my view.

Probably if an M has had limited contact and neglect then NC is not a good choice, it is more of the same. More of the same isn't a180.

Time is the way through the maze, the wayward has to learn it is their own responsibility for their sitch. That likely takes a failed A and facing their demons.

If they don't do you really want more of the same old or would you prefer a new R with WH or someone else?

Pursuing won't get you there whatever.

V