5 years ago I was guilty of hiding financial difficulties from my W. Since then we have gradually been growing apart, while living under the same roof. Separate bedrooms, cordial, but no meaningful conversations that don't pertain to my daughter.
On 1/24/16 I saw a text from my wife to her co-worker that she was interested in hooking up with him. I did not confront her about the OM, but went to her and said that life is too short and that I just want her to be happy. That's when she told me she wanted a D. I did not disagree or try to talk her out of it. I did not know it at the time, but she had been drinking while we had this conversation. Two weeks went by with no further talk of D. On 2/7/16 I asked if she could let me know when she could meet. She replied, "for what?" And I said to discuss the details of the D. She said ok. Since then, still no mention of meeting or the D. Neither of us has filed.
I believe she is still texting the OM. She has gone out and come home late a couple of times, but I don't question her about it. I'm currently reading DR and have read a lot of the threads here while awaiting my account activation. I want to keep my family together and will work to make things better. Trying to do 180 and Last Resort. I'm curious as to why she has not pushed the D issue yet? I don't want to force her hand, so I don't plan on brining it up myself.
Me 41. Her 38 1 child D7 T: 13 yrs M: 8 yrs BD: 1/24/16
