first of all welcome to the MLC playpen. Very very sorry you are here, but there are lots of great folks and most important for you to know right now: you are not alone!

SOmeone with more experience than I will step in soon, I'm sure, to advise you. In the meantime: all you have to do today is focus on breathing.

All you have to say is, thank you for sharing. you've given me a lot to think about and that's it.

Yes, back to square 1 DBing ... validate, don't react and breathe!

xoxoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver