Now what?/ One Day at a Time

[melweb]

I am jumping over here for a bit as I truly believe H is in MLC.

Quick synopsis: Got BD'd on Nov 9-ILBNILWY. I DB'd (still DBing) until beginning of January when he tells me he is not leaving and I do not have to live in fear. A couple bumps in the road, and serious secret cell phone use, but other than that we had great R talks, talks of the future, what went wrong and how to fix it, thanked me for saving the marriage. My suspicion peaks ( an affair) as he is away on biz trip right now, and via text he asks me "you sense something don't you?" I say yes. He says "I tried." I say we knew it was a work in progress and we had made so much progress" He says "I know Melweb." He is calling me today.

Reasons I believe MLC: He kept telling me life is too short, he doesn't want to be depressed and lay in his room all day (he went through a bout a depression a few years ago and is now on Lexapro), says he will do whatever it takes to be happy, whatever the cost.
I believe he is in replay--changed wardrobe, got a full body wax, tanning, partied quite a bit after BD but that subsided once he recommitted, and now this EA/PA with younger woman.

I am not sure what to say today when he calls. I guess I am back at Square One