Quick question: When/"IF!!" H reaches out to me, do I act as if all is well. He does not know that I know of The Case of the Missing Condoms and Cialis.
How you mave forward is up to you. No matter what you do, you should be trying to decide what toyour boundaries are.
What is mel willing to live with in her life. What behaviors are you no longer willing to allow people to do in your sphere.
The second thing is what your response will be. What are you going to decide to do if a person continues to try to hurt you.
We HAVE to be willing to lose the marriage, friendship and companionship otherwise we will continue to allow the deteriorating respect for you and it will cauae your own respect for yourself to be lost.
I beleve the scorched earth approach does not leave the path home clear. I truly believe that.
Also i believe we cannot just ignore those feeling we have. We respond for a reason. Yes it is good not to show them to your spouse, but you simply cannot ignore or supress them. That is not healthy snd will crewte bigger problems later...i think a lot of us here did that for way to long and created problems with trust and resentment...but that is a topic for another day.
