Good questions - found some birthday and mother's day cards yesterday. Of course, they left me sobbing quietly in my room with the door closed, praying son wouldn't hear me.
I just packed up a bunch of photos and cards into a box and put them in the closet. I will deal with it down the road. I cannot face it now. I am trying to just go with what I'm most decisive about and leave the waffly stuff till later, when more time has passed and I feel stronger. Does that make sense?
I've been dealing with these questions also. I wanted no photos to remind me, but then I thought, well, that's not really what my life has been for the past 26 years, and what about S? What kind of a message would I send if I got rid of all dad's photos? I have wondered what it would be like if I didn't share my living space with someone still tied to H. I think the answer to that for you will come in time. H and your marriage was a big part of your life for a long time Sotto, so you may find that it makes sense to honor that by keeping the things that mean the most to you. Knowing you, you will figure it out with your usual grace and in the appropriate time as you continue your journey.
What kind of a pup are you going to get? My boy is an English Springer. His grandma won Best of Breed at Crufts. His daddy was flown to the states to a lovely woman who adores him. My fur baby is a combination of good New England stock and great "Old Country" stock as well. I would have been happy with a rescue, but H wanted a puppy, purebred so he knew the lineage, and a springer. This was especially important to him as springers have epilepsy and rage issues in certain lines.
Keep me posted on the puppy watch!!!! So excited for you, if you do decide to get one. I couldn't imagine life without my sweet furry boy.
xoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
