Beginning of the End

[TimR]

Thank you broke and jujub. I can just not figure how to set boundaries when she is sitting right next to me. Its not like I can get out and walk if she decides to be mean. I am preparing for the worst though and going to as if for the best.

The boundary and was thinking is if she attacks me validating 5 times. Tim you drive like an ahole, "I'm sorry to make you feel unsafe, I will slow down." Tim you spend too much time with S. "I guess we both need more time with S, can I give you the list of his weight routine and he can go to the gym with you." Tim you know I never loved you... "That must have been like hell to spend such a long time with me then."

JujuB, Her big thing with me has been that I never acted like I loved her. How ever that was at the beginning of all this. Before, it was that I always held myself above everyone else and I thought I could do no wrong. Now it is that I always try to control her. The only reason she gave me of hurting her was taking her rings that she stopped wearing the night I caught her cheating.

I can honestly say that I was not the most open affectionate husband. I cannot show her that I have changed that now. She has insecurities and I should have been much more vocal about how beautiful and sexy she is. Again I cannot show her a 180 on that right now either. Hopefully in the future!