What the heck is this?

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I need some opinions.

I'm still thinking about this business of wiring funds for h's apartment lease and depositing his checks. I feel like it's cake eating. He's living his fantasy life in happy-ville and expecting me to make sure he can continue to do that by making sure he has the money he needs to do it. It just goes against my grain.

I know I could make his life miserable just by not depositing his checks but I'm not that kind of person. I'm not vindictive and sincerely do no want to hurt him.

And his last visit here was a pleasant one, but my gut says he's hooked up with another OW. I have no proof of that, just my intuition based on how he behaved over the holidays and when he was here last time. He was actually pretty good when he was here last time, but it's hard to tell where he's really at because his assistant was here as well. There were signs of old H but it was also clear that he was still doing some replay. I could be totally wrong, but something just doesn't "feel" right.

My worry is that he's very comfortable with things as they stand and has no impetus to make any changes. Again, I could be wrong. He may very well working his way out of the tunnel, but since I don't see him I have no way of knowing.

I've been dark for the past few days and to be perfectly honest, I really don't want to talk to him. However, h calls into the office on weekday mornings and I usually answer his call. It's become a routine.

I'm thinking of avoiding his calls by allowing BIL to take the call. BIL would have no problem telling h that I didn't have anything I needed to talk to him about.

I'm just wondering if that would be pushing him in the wrong direction? Back into the tunnel? Or, is it better to just keep on with things as they have been? It seems to me that he thinks I have no problem with the current sitch but, of course, it's not at all acceptable to me.

I feel like I'm being pulled in two different directions ... sit back, zip my lips and keep "allowing" him to live in happy-ville with no interference from me OR check out for a while and give him something to think about.

Opinions??