We just don't know the future, do we? Did we know they were going to be leaving? They fell in love enough to marry us and stay, then their feelings changed enough to leave. Do we know that they won't change again? We don't. We also have no control over anything they do or think. But we can learn to control ourselves. We can learn to change that which we find needs to be changed to make our own lives better, within ourselves.
It certainly won't be easy. Especially at our ages and with what we thought our future was going to be like changing so drastically and in such a short time. I have to make all new friends (getting there), look for a new (much smaller) place to live, sell or donate half of my "stuff" or more, get it moved,deal with new stress induced anxiety, depression, and pain and go back to school for gosh knows what, find a new job...and do it all without my best friend, support system, and stress relieving lover! I'm sure you're right there with me! But...it can be done!
Through all of this, I still want H back. So, redoubling DB efforts. Strong, patient, so very,very kind. Buttercup, we are so similar in our situations. Let's try to trust this process...we will be better for it either way.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
