But are you prepared to stay under the same roof if she has not changed? It is obvious you would do anything for your kids, however, if she is still playing games and won't behave herself........it will be a miserable situation for you.
We all are pulling for you, Jim. I am just so sorry this has happened to your family. Please keep posting, b/c we care and want to hear from you as often as possible.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!