The first thing to do is breathe! It's going to be one step forward, two steps back for a while. You'll need to take a good, hard look at your bills and what's coming in money wise and then determine if you need to reduce some of the bills (especially if they are for things that your h subscribed to).
Spring is around the corner and when you are feeling a little bit better, you might want to spring clean, paint walls, move the furniture around and make the home yours. If you determine that you have to or need to move, spring is a good time to start looking for a new place to make as your own.
Make lists of things that need to be done and check them off as you go along. There is no set time to do all of them. Rome wasn't built in a day and it's going to take a while to figure things out. Be kind to yourself because you are going to have ups and downs for a while until you are back on level footing.
Come here to vent, ask questions or just to blog. Many of us have been through what you are going thru and have come out the other side and then there are others in various stages of walking the path and trying to figure things out...but there is always someone around who will listen and provide some advice, suggestions or just validate you and what you are dealing with.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
