Wow Mleigh. Just caught up. You've already received great advice from Job and 2Times2Many.

But, your h's comment that he doesn't know how to overcome what you are teaching?!? Make sure you don't listen to that for one second. You are a really good mother and don't let them take that away from you.

I am really sorry. I know it is easier said than done, but try not to let it ruin the moment for you today. Thinking of you.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced