If it creates bonding and love why would he do it. Just to make me want him? I mean I already love him I'm just not chasing him or playing games and trying to move on.

It is a control tactic.

Wouldn't it make him feel bonding too? I'm curious about that now.

Abusers have a slightly different pathway mechanism with hormones. It is bonding but only lasts as long as the hug etc. That isn't the case with targets, they may be more receptive to oxytocin.

I never knew a hug could do anything at all.

This particular hormone is called the 'cuddle' hormone. Women respond to it more strongly than men. It can be googled.

Yeah I'm going to tell him it's a boundary not to cross. I'm already struggling to let go without having new ways to make me miss him more without me even knowing that is what it can do.

That is the dynamic for these types of sitches. It is so difficult.

It really is. Sometimes I doubt my own reality too. Then I listen to my recordings, I return here to reread my threads and then I stay strong.

Hugs

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW