Oh and if I haven't yet made my thoughts clear, this grooming isn't for the sole purpose of lurve and an A. This is for deeper slightly more obtuse motives.
This style of Mata Hari OW toys with affection like a cat plays with a mouse. For pay rises, the company car, promotions, money, status, to be the bosses 'pet' , for resources, attention and to be adored. Without that they are empty. They use grooming and EA as a technique to interact with the world.
They are very vulnerable to being 'not all that' and being thought of as a 'velvetine'.
Sorry link icon doesn't work on my iPad it is from the abuse resource thread.
Let me know, I think I am on the right track, I reviewed several of your posts very carefully indeed although it's your sitch. You are a very generous, loving, caring and giving person just the sort of target these minx head for, your WH is vulnerable. They often loose interest in their targets if they have less resources.
It's time to get good and angry and determined for YOU. The lovely folks on this board will support you and give you encouragement to grow and change.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
