Time for a new direction

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Oh Mleigh - a trip away sounds great! I know parts of it can be hard but when I went away on BD anniversary, I loved it. I find headphones to be a life-saver, especially at the beach where for some reason many men seem to think that any woman all by herself is on the market?!? I put them in even when I wasn't listening to music and was left alone. At dinner I brought my iPad but mostly people watched. It will rejuvenate you!

As for your h's recent behavior, sounds like he wants your son in a bubble. LOL! Maybe he is scared s will grow up before him. Ha ha.

Eventually your son will go to some friend's houses and be exposed to lots of things which you wouldn't necessarily approve (especially if that home has older siblings). They begin to text and learn all sorts of things in those conversations. They are naive at first and have no idea that those conversations can be viewed by parents, forwarded to principals or to other people. Your h can't shelter him from it all. Your poor h may struggle with the loss of innocence. It's hard.

Concerns about violence are prevalent these days. Many parents don't realize that it's not usually "violent" play. Typically, it's hero play! And a hero needs a villain. If you probe your son on what was going on with those two snakes, it probably boiled down to hero play or even a justice scenario. Maybe one snake was evil and the other was protecting. Probably wasn't two drug dealing snakes fighting over a deal gone bad. LOL! There's a lot of thought that we are shaming boys when we tell them they can't play in any way that is remotely violent (as it is really hero play).

Nice job just not engaging. Like you said not worth it as you are on top of it.

I am sure your son will have fun at his party!!