Time for a new direction

[mleigh4]

Irish, let's house switch! I only get to the snow every few years, but I always enjoy it!

Bright, I don't have any siblings. I am closer with my friends than my family. They are my family. I have some great friends that have held me as I cried and hug me when I laugh. I feel fortunate for that. We should travel together!

Job, I don't think my in-laws realize I have moved on. They may now. Did you travel with all strangers? That would be so out of my comfort zone, but it really intrigues me. I am up for it.

Bttrfly, be careful hiking alone in the desert! It sounds fun though. I am craving the beach, the Caribbean calls me constantly. I could just sit myself on a beach with a mai tai and a book and be happy as a clam. Dinner alone is my only fear, but I see people do it all alone. A cruise would be perfect for me too, in fact, on past cruises, I yearned for alone time. That may be my best place to start.

Yesterday morning, S asked to not do Grammy day...again. Fine except I had a hair appt. I TM H to see if he could pick up S from me, or switch nights. We decided to switch nights and S hung out with me. H let Grammy know.

So, exchange from H from left field last night. H TM me an article..."10 steps to a chore system for your child" he says it's an article he came across when looking up certain behaviors from S. Says if I don't agree or am not interested, he won't be upset. That he is not accusing me of anything or telling me what to do. That S is a great kid, has lots of friends and does well in school, but is concerned with his future and he is trying to prepare him to be the best he can be. He added that he knows I can come back with things that he has done or do that I don't agree with, and that is fine, he just wanted to share this.

Did I miss something? Why can't he just say, here is a great article on chores to get our lazy kid to work!? Lol.

It's almost like he has a panic attack about our son, he gets so concerned about how he will turn out....do you think he is actually looking within? Opening up? Maybe worried S may end up the same? Worried about his influence? I know we can't get in his head, but could he possibly be doing some self assessment?

In the past, this kind of text would have really annoyed me. It would have set off blame and finger pointing. I see it very differently right now....however, my guard is up. Wondering what, or who, set this off....

I replied to him, "whoa, I thought we got past this? I agree, chores are very important. Thank you for sharing, I will read it"

He replied thanks with a smiley face.

He came to pick up S tonight. Asked at 5 if he could run by Lowe's first, showed up at 7. He made comments about S playing his game, felt what he was watching on YouTube was too violent, (he follows a user-friendly mine craft youtuber), asked don't I know what he is watching? Made a face about a part in a comic book S made and drew where a snake says, I am going to kill you to another snake. Then didn't like a game S wanted where a car crashes......I am very cautious and aware of what S does....H is going overboard!

What is this and where did it come from? He was doing so well, he has gone right back to BD behavior. Making mountains out of molehills and picking fights. I didn't bite, he just isn't worth a fight to me right now. He can fret and spin. S is a normal kid, I am always aware of his doings, I make sure it is all age appropriate, but do not want him sheltered either.

S has his buddies coming over tomorrow for a birthday party. Pizza and cupcakes! H says he will pick up and bring the pizza if I want. I sure hope he snaps out of this mood he is in. Tomorrow will be all about fun! His negativity and paranoia are not welcome.