Not much to contribute other than a hug Painter. You sound exhausted and rightly so. Cruelty is draining, energetically and physically. I can only imagine the level of fatigue and egg shell walking you must be dealing with.
I'm sorry I don't have more for you other than support and empathy.
And another hug,
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