Beginning of the End

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Ok Thank you all for trying to talk some sense into me. Well the answer to my text was her calling me. And the following is a summary of the conversation:

I answered the phone practicing "as if" and was sounded in a good mood. She immediately attacked me why was I in a good mood. I said why would I be up until recently I was having a good day. She told me I have mental problems. I said I was in counselling and it was going well. I am just in a good mood because I learned how not to let her hurt me anymore and I was moving forward. She then went into how I am controlling, manipulating, and hurting her. I explained I did not know how I was doing those things, could she explain because when she pointed out the problem of the clinic I looked and immediately realized I was wrong and that we would not do the clinic and I would talk to S. She said yeah so I can talk bad about her. I told her I would never do that and how she is as a mom was something I always found attractive about her and that she is a wonderful mother to the boys. I would never want to try and ruin the love they have for her. Our problems are our problems and should be shouldered by the boys. While S16 for some reason seems to hate me now, S13 relies on me and I am the only father the poor kid ever knew. I love him and we have a very tight bond. She said I keep trying to hurt her and she could list how I keep doing it. I ask her to please give me the list of ways so I can stop doing them. She wouldn't said I should know.

Then she started to get really rude and started name calling. I told her I really think we need to get this talked through but I will not stay on the phone with her if she continues to be disrespectful. We are not together and I am not going to be subjected to it. She said I am disrespectful to her. I said I am sorry if I did anything disrespectful I did not mean to.

She then went into a rant about her rings. She said she wanted them back. That I was hurting her because I wear my ring still and she can't even wear hers. I said you took your rings off and why would you want to wear them when you have a boyfriend. She said she was going to call the police and have me arrested for stealing. I said if that is what she feels she needs to do but they are marital property. She then said I was the biggest POS ever and a horrible human. I said I cant agree with that and I will bend over backwards for those boys, we will have to agree to disagree. She continued about the rings and I admitted I threw them out the car window when I caught her cheating.

She then said so if I came back tonight, you would not have the rings. I said no, but I know she would not come back and it would take time before we could be back together. I said I am not willing to share you anyway, so getting rid of OM would be the first step. However I know that is not what she wants so that is fine and I am doing good.

Then she said she does not want him around me anymore cause she just cannot handle me hurting her. I said I am happy to work on whatever for S but she would have to tell me what it is that causes so much pain. She then said I could not see him tonight. I said ok I will text him I will not be able to get him but I would tell him why cause he deserves to know the truth. Not that I abandoned him. She said she would talk to him. I said ok but I would also let him know, because I did not want her saying I just abandoned him. She then said I could take him to practice.

That ended the conversation.