Staying the Course Pt. II

[HopeRB]

Just finished GALing but feeling a bit sad tonight. Just wondering how H could be so heartless toward me to just leave and never look back. Like I'm not even worth his time. Everyone and everything else is more important than his own wife.

[Thornton]

Hope,

Same here. Just came home from daddy/daughter date night and I'm feeling the same way.

Amazes me how W can just go ice cold and no contact. Makes me feel like she never really love me.

[broke]

Hope and Thornton,

Sadness must be in the air tonight. I'm feeling low, too. I miss sharing my day with my H. Knowing there was always someone that wanted to hear. That friendship that he said was missing is actually what I miss about us the most.

Wish we could all GAL together tonight.

[Sparkls]

Add me to the list. I just miss hanging out with H. I'm also dog tired so at least I can go to bed early. H sent me a forwarded voicemail about a vet appointment rather than just text me and remind me. I know giving him space is what was best for us. I just wish OW would've done the same, so he would actually spend time figuring his sh*t out.
Oh well. Every day without any contact is another day I've done just fine without him. I'm having more "I'm done" moments, and being more comfortable with those moments.
One day at a time.

[HopeRB]

Hey everyone, thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one. I think it's gets even harder on the weekends. I miss sharing a laugh with H and being affectionate with him. And yeah, I feel like maybe he never really loved me bc it is way too easy for him to do what he's doing and feel nothing about it. I wish OW would leave my H the heck alone too and respect that he has a wife and family that he has to lie to to make her happy.

Thornton, I'm glad you got in some daddy/daughter time, that's so important. When my parents were going through their stuff, my dad and I were inseparable. And we are best friends to this day.

That would be so great if we could all GAL together! There has to be a way! Lol

[Thornton]

Count me in! Let's go grab a few drinks and talk smack about the WAS's!

[broke]

I know this sounds sad and pathetic, but I'd do about anything right now to get an "I miss you" text or call from my jerk of a H.

I would also love to talk smack about the WAS's over drinks. Lol!

[Thornton]

That would be nice huh, Broke?

But we are taking the high road here. Integrity is paramount.

I believe in karma, and no one escapes life's hurdles. But when you carry yourself with integrity, I believe the universe has a way of balancing things out.

We won't feel this way forever. We will find love again, maybe with WAS or someone else. But we will get past this and prosper.

Life has seasons. This is our winter. Spring is on it's way.

[HopeRB]

That is so simple and profound Thornton, thank you. Funny because usually the winter is my favorite season...but not so much right now. Lol, although it's not so terrible b/c I am learning so much about myself in the process.

Also, I'm supposed to see H this weekend and trying to center myself and build on everything I've been learning and doing for myself and my future R. But what do I say or do if he brings up D? Historically, I would freak out by immediately defending myself and our M, pacing back and forth, not letting him talk, telling him he's wrong, attacking him slightly, etc. Now of course I know not to do that but how can I really stay calm and what do I say if the moment arises? I have to make every interaction with him count. Please help!

[Thornton]

H - Hope I think we need to move forward with the D.

Hope - I disagree but I won't stop you.


It's really all about validating. If he has his heart set on D, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

BUT, you can validate him and make him question himself.

If he complains about something. You can respond "Yeah, I can see why you would feel that way. That must have been really hard for you."

Just validate.