I'm in the same boat Pajo, my wife is extremely secretive with her phone and has been messaging "her sister" very often. I used to try and look at her phone to see who was calling, I would snoop and listen to her conversations with her sister also without concrete evidence. But a few months ago I decided that it was taking up way too much of my energy and time. I decided that the OM, if there was one, was only a symptom of the problem and would be on her conscience not mine. I wouldn't even bring it up, it's not the source of the problem between you two. Stay strong brother!
