I've been checking out these boards for quite awhile as I've been posting on Newcomers, but I guess its time to move on over here.
To some up, my H dropped the B 2 weeks after my D25 got married this summer, moved out in October, and filed for D at the end of January. He has given as his reasons that we are too different, that I don't like him and haven't for years (the length of that time keeps growing), that I am embarassed of him, and that, although he isn't happy now that he's moved out (or even happier)he sees it as his best chance to be happy.
He talks of getting old, being exhausted, working til his last breath, etc. His mother has Alzheimers but is being cared for by his father 2 states away. He is under a lot of stress about this. He seems very depressed.
I care for him deeply...still love and am attracted to him. He still shows me he cares for me. As I've learned to listen better, he has opened up more about his fears and stresses. He has, over the years, become closer to a friend and employee (married female)as he's moved further away emotionally from me, but I no longer believe it was a PA. They are still close.
I believe he is deep in MLC and has been for some time.
I have been trying to DB since September, but have trouble detaching. I've learned that R talks scare him away, but cause him to think. I try not to have them, but sometimes my emotions get the best of me. He has reached out to me randomly several times so I've "been the lighthouse" or the "woman only a fool would leave" and he seems very responsive to this. But then I get my hopes up and have them smashed again when he pulls back. I'm trying to detach and am getting better at it. Just thought it was time to move over here.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
