Z I am glad you find strength in me and it is useful to you. I'd be curious to know more about what strength you see in me.
This is one of the easier questions you've asked...I see strength in any man or woman who continues to do what they believe is right, despite being tired, lonely or overwhelmed.
You have chosen to stand for your marriage and hold your vows to a woman who is hurting and cannot give that same back to you right now. There are not many men who would stand for their family and kids like you have even though you have been battered by this storm.
I see it as strength.
Tonight I am invited for a drink with some mates. Am pretty wrecked after work but I may go. The rest of the weekend is pretty full but a lot of it is family stuff. But I will have some sport too.
I have taken the stance that I am not saying no to social invitations whenever I don't have plans already in place. it has been a good idea, I have found some fun where I would have missed it in the past. it is one of my 180's and my goals, smothered with GAL all wrapped up into 1
This evening I got home and lately we chat sometimes together when I arrive. Anyway this evening my W was on for talking but was clearly off. One of our neighbours just told her she is splitting with her H. It is so hard to not bring us up at such times. I said soon the neighborhood will be full of bachelors.She looked puzzled but then realised I meant that this guy is the third since we loved there four years ago. I wanted to scream let's get out of here before the curse gets us...... but then maybe it already has. These are hard to deal with. We had a good friend of ours decide to split. We were both crushed by it. it did give some clarity on her position of divorce though. She made mention many times how you just don't walk away from your problems, that it doesn't fix anything...
I am not going to mindread my W nor snoop to see if she mentions why she is off. I have my path. I know that any day she could drop a bomb but I am not going to stress about that until it happens.
Or she won't who knows. Don't let those thought rule your mind. you have been talking about your improved focus right...this is a good place to start. I love the 'stop sigh' approach. it really works. (I have to admit, I also have to SHOUT in my head...STFU....STFU....STFU for it to get through when thoughts are really thick). Mindfulness is key here!
