Thanks for the replies. I've read through most of those threads already, and I did pick up the book from BAM the other day and have read through it once.

Today, I signed up for one coaching call to get some immediate help...

My main concern, atm, is that my behavior, (calling him at work and screaming at him, threatening his job, and even two suicidal nights,) are things he'll never be able to get over and past... in which case, am I just wasting my time trying to save this marriage?